I suspect our emotional health depends largely on genetic and environmental epigenetic changes due to home, work (Ruthless Capitalism), neighborhood environments, ghettos, increasingly the middleclass poor, and many poor immigrants legal or not.
Genetics and environments are strong determinants of our psychological state based on my layman knowledge in taking college courses and reading widely in Science and Medicine.
Mate attraction is based strongly on our DNA mismatch ... major histocompatibility complex (MHC) is a large genomic region or gene familyfound in most vertebrates and plays an important role in the immune system andautoimmunity.
to optimize our survival mismatch to optimize the immune system of our children, and keeps us from seeing character flaws as I have experience more than a few times. Daughters are more attracted to men who have some DNA similar to their fathers and men are more attracted to women who have some DNA similar to their mothers.
Marriages are hard, especially for wives who have to work and largely take care of children leading to the neglect of the husband even now. These problems seem to on the way to being solve with the younger generations so I am optimistic. Relationships are now longer so logic intrudes which leads us to more stable one.
Combine this with the fact that close to 80 percent of Californians did not feel secure in their jobs before this current greedy corporate Republican changed communities destroyed society destroyed our economy and profited greatly from this destruction even if their million plus stock portfolio suffered, but not as much as the middleclass who did not have advisors to hold their hands and sold everything.
Less managers to interfere with the work of their employees seems to be a trend. Hooray! Let's spread the wealth. It is a myth that achievements at the top led to new developments. It occurred in spite of managers. Only Entrepreneurs only deserves large financial rewards.
A long time close friend sent me the article about health and relationships, a topic often discussed, but not well understood.
Jim Kawakami, July 24, 2010, http://jimboguy.blogspot.com
Emotions Affect Health Untrusting Fear Rejection Insecure about Relationships
… Secure attachment
Securely attached people tend to agree with the following statements: "It is relatively easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me. I don't worry about being alone or having others not accept me." This style of attachment usually results from a history of warm and responsive interactions with relationship partners.
Securely attached people tend to have positive views of themselves and their partners. They also tend to have positive views of their relationships. Often they report greater satisfaction and adjustment in their relationships than people with other attachment styles. Securely attached people feel comfortable both with intimacy and with independence. Many seek to balance intimacy and independence in their relationships.
People who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to agree with the following statements: "I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like.
I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them." People with this style of attachment seek high levels of intimacy, approval, and responsiveness from their partners. They sometimes value intimacy to such an extent that they become overly dependent on their partners—a condition colloquially termed clinginess.
Compared to securely attached people, people who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to have less positive views about themselves. They often doubt their worth as a partner and blame themselves for their partners' lack of responsiveness. People who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment may exhibit high levels of emotional expressiveness, worry, and impulsiveness in their relationships.
People with a dismissive style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with these statements: "I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient, and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me."
People with this attachment style desire a high level of independence. The desire for independence often appears as an attempt to avoid attachment altogether. They view themselves as self-sufficient and invulnerable to feelings associated with being closely attached to others.
They often deny needing close relationships. Some may even view close relationships as relatively unimportant. Not surprisingly, they seek less intimacy with relationship partners, whom they often view less positively than they view themselves.
Investigators commonly note the defensive character of this attachment style. People with a dismissive-avoidant attachment tend to suppress and hide their feelings, and they tend to deal with rejection by distancing themselves from the sources of rejection (i.e., their relationship partners).
People with a fearful style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with the following statements: "I am somewhat uncomfortable getting close to others. I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to trust others completely, or to depend on them. I sometimes worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others."
People with this attachment style have mixed feelings about close relationships. On the one hand, they desire to have emotionally close relationships. On the other hand, they tend to feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness.
These mixed feelings are combined with negative views about themselves and their partners. They commonly view themselves as unworthy of responsiveness from their partners, and they don't trust the intentions of their partners. Similarly to the dismissive-avoidant attachment style, people with a fearful-avoidant attachment style seek less intimacy from partners and frequently suppress and hide their feelings. … http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults
Relationship Uncertainties Linked to Higher Risk of Heart Attacks July 23, 2010 Rachael Rettner www.LiveScience.com People who are untrusting, fear rejection, or are otherwise insecure about their relationships might be at a greater risk for health problems than their more secure counterparts.
A new study shows such relationship uncertainties, known as "insecure attachment," were linked to a higher risk for a number of health conditions, including stroke, heart attack and high blood pressure.
The researchers were initially surprised by the results since much of the work related to relationship attachment and health has focused on conditions involving pain, such as arthritis, and not cardiovascular conditions.
The study "suggests that attachment is associated with these fairly concrete and negative health outcomes," said study researcher Lachlan McWilliams, of Acadia University in Nova Scotia, Canada.
Pain conditions are somewhat subjective experiences in that people can experience more or less pain, while something like a heart attack is a distinct, clear cut event, he said.
And since these insecurities are thought to develop at a young age, the work adds to "a growing body of research that suggest that negative experiences in childhood have a wide range of negative outcomes in terms of mental health and [physical] health later in life," McWilliams told LiveScience. … http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38385105/ns/health-heart_health/ The results are published in the July issue of Health Psychology, a journal of the American Psychological Association.